If there would be one piece of advice when getting married it would be to take your time and not to feel like you need to rush into anything. Getting married should be one of the best, most memorable times of your life and you will achieve this only if you are 100% certain it is what you really want! How do you get to feel so certain? Here are some practical tips about getting married that will help you make sure you are choosing the life you want to have with the person beside you.
Underneath the romance and the chemistry is friendship. Developing a solid friendship is the cornerstone of any long-term relationship. Even the strongest relationships have their ups and downs and if you want yours to be able to handle the tougher times, there needs to be a basis of trust, honesty, and communication. When it comes to how long you should wait before getting married some say a few months, others say at least six months to a year. It is difficult to put a time frame on any relationship as each is unique and has its own rhythm. Its own pattern. You need to look honestly at your relationship and decide for yourself whether you are deciding to get married because it’s what you both want or because it’s where you think your relationship should be heading.
If you have taken the time to establish a good relationship with your partner and feel that getting married is right for you as a couple then the next tip to remember is you don’t have to have all your ducks in a row in order to do so. Many of us are taught growing up then we should have certain things in place before getting married such as having the right job, be financially stable, have a house and a car. While it is good to have goals and work towards them it is equally important not to have your head too much in the future as it could mean you miss out on all the good times right now. If you look honestly at yourself and your relationship and feel that getting married is the next step you want to take, whose to say you need to wait until you are more ready? In this sense getting married can also mean that you grow more mature together, that you learn to handle responsibilities and what life throws in your way, together. Having security does not equate being ready to marry someone. Know yourself, your issues and hang-ups, learn to understand your partner and discover who you are as a couple. This is what leads to getting married. Love is what matters.